There’s a poem by Aleksandra Lachut that begins with the lines:
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
I thought of this poem when I read the question I received for this Free Personal Tarot Reading in Agony Aunt Style. It was submitted by Tj* in St Louis and this is her question:
What was his purpose in my life? The break-up was horrible, for the most part I thought we were friends and now it seems like he hates me and won’t even speak with me. I don’t understand how two people can go from loving each other to total strangers. This sincerely pains me to my soul. It’s been months and I don’t know what else to do; one day I’m fine, other days I’m a mess in tears. I even tried getting out and staying active, I’m so hurt words can’t explain. I just want to learn my lesson get closure and stop hurting. I just don’t get why the heart loves the people who can’t or won’t stay with you. My life has been one big letdown after another in my relationships as a whole. I’m starting to feel unlovable when I have the most love to give I just want to understand.
I was expecting the reading to be very straightforward, but it was not. Actually, that’s not true, in some ways it was very clear and it showed me that even after 20 years of reading the tarot, I can still learn a new lesson myself from reading for others. This reading showed me that moving on from a break up is not as easy as just looking at the purpose of that person being in our life.
I thought back to all my previous relationships and I realised that yes, I had learned something from each person. But their purpose in my life was clear; I wanted love and companionship, although the way I wanted these changed with each relationship. The lessons I learned from each was in how I experienced them and unfortunately, this is not a lesson a tarot reading can teach anyone. When I realised this in the middle of doing this reading, I almost contacted Tj to tell her that I couldn’t do her reading. However, I didn’t feel like that was fair, after all, the tarot reading still had a message, even if it wasn’t the precise one that was asked for.
You can read the full reading here*. If you’re a tarot reader and come across a similar question from a client, then hopefully this reading will show that there are always paths open to us, even if they’re not the ones we hoped to take. If you’re in a similar position as Tj, then perhaps the advice she received can be helpful to you too.
My deepest gratitude to Tj and all those who have allowed their readings to be published. I have to admit that it wasn’t easy doing the reading this week as I’m still not 100% recovered from my recent ill health. I have put a notice up on the Free Readings page advising that there will be delays in future readings as I realised with this reading how much they take out of me and it is not entirely fair to offer readings, even if they are free, when I have so much going on myself.
If you would like to submit a question for a free tarot reading, read Free Personal Tarot Reading in Agony Aunt Style for more details and fill out the form there. But as I said, there are delays, so I thank you for your patience and understanding.
*Used with permission.