Would you like to have a tarot reading and have the cards tell you exactly what you can expect from your relationship? Whether your spouse will cheat again? If he or she is your soul mate? If you’ll find that happily ever after with this one? It sounds wonderfully convenient, but really is the least helpful way to use the tarot for a better future for your relationship. After all, why would we want a reading to just dictate what will happen with our relationship, good or bad, when we can have the relationship and the future that we want? Here are some ways in which tarot can help you to create a better future for your relationship.
The Future
It seems a strange place to start, but before you even formulate your question for your reading, think about what you want for the future of your relationship. Also think about why you want this future. Does your desire for this path come from a place of love or from a place of selfish need? For example, I know someone who once told me she wants a man who will work and provide for her, cook for her and be totally in love with her. That would be great for her, for a while at least, but is that a relationship? If you truly love someone, then you want a future that makes both of you happy. A good way to initiate this is to discuss with your partner what you would both like from the relationship. This kind of open communication will soon make it clear whether your both on the same page for the relationship or on diverging paths.
Understanding the Relationship
Once you know where you want to go, it is time to look at where you are. Sometimes we know we love the other person so much, and that they love us, but just cannot understand why neither of us seems to be happy. This is where asking the cards a question aimed at understanding the relationship can come in handy. The reading can be used to look at the problems within the relationship, the issues or emotional baggage that you both bring to the relationship or outside factors that may be affecting each of you. By having a reading to understand the relationship, you can see what is broken and needs to be fixed.
Creating a Better Future
If you know what is wrong but can’t envision a path to a better relationship, then a reading looking at ways you can improve different aspects can be very helpful. The main thing to remember here is there is no point looking at ways you can change your partner; the power to change lies solely within you. This is where most people get tripped up. They think whatever they are doing is right and ‘if only’ the other person would do something differently, the relationship would change. Unless you are open to doing things differently, there is little hope anything will change in the relationship. This does not mean sacrificing your happiness for the other, but instead finding a new path to your own happiness.