It has been some time since I posted a free reading, but last week I received a question from Kinley* in Bhutan, and she had a question related to overcoming a stalemate situation in a relationship. As I read her question I realised that this is something we all experience in our personal relationships. No matter how much two people love each other or are similar in their thinking, from time to time an issue or problem will arise where you both take opposite sides. This can be anything from changing jobs, homes, having kids, which school to send the kids to, or even religious and political ideologies.
A tarot reading can help to guide you through this conflict. It can show you a way to get your side across to your partner, or even that you’re being too tenacious and need to back off, or that what you want is feasible, there really is not a way to get your partner at this time.
Below is the question and followed by the reading summary, but you can see the full reading with a breakdown of the card meanings and spreads here*.
“I am at a stalemate in my relationship. I am in this huge conflict with my partner and not finding any resolution to it. I need advice and guidance on how to deal with this conflict.”
When there is a stalemate situation in a relationship, it’s the meeting of two very stubborn minds. I’m going to give you an example which came to my mind as I was going through your reading. A woman wants to have a child, but her partner does not think now is the right time. He is worried about finances or the restraints that will be placed on social life. After all, nights out with the boys, or holidays will be restricted. But she wants their family to be complete. Every conversation seems to come back to this issue of the child. What happens is that the interactions between the two becomes about this ongoing battle, and they stop relating as a couple.
In the same way, the main emphasis of your reading seems to show that the way out of your deadlock is to relate once again to your partner on an emotional level. This does not mean that you have to give up on what you want, in fact, the reading indicates that the outcome is something that you will be very happy and fulfilled with. When the focus of the relationship turns to an issue or point of contention, it can have a corrosive affect on affection and intimacy which further drives a wedge between two people and makes a resolution even less likely. Luckily, things between you two are still good and there is a lot of love and affection.
Think very carefully about the outcome that you want; in your heart off hearts, do you believe this to be the absolute best outcome for you both as a couple? It may be the best thing for you, but is it the best thing for both of you? Is there a way you can reach a compromise? I guess what I am trying to say is that it is important to keep you both as a couple first and foremost in your thinking, as this will show.
Your partner seems to have a strong male support system, which may be, even inadvertently, affecting his stance in this situation, but I do also feel that there is a strong woman, probably a family member or close friend, who can be your ally. On the whole though, as I said before, shift the focus back to you both. Show him why you work as a couple and that you have a strong foundation and can achieve anything together. If you can do this, it will allay fears and doubts more than any argument or debate, bringing you closer to the outcome you desire.
While the focus of the reading was on how to find a way through the conflict and how to break the stalemate situation, there are a couple of other things that came up which could have a bearing; a family reunion or gathering of close friends and family members and also a journey, maybe even overseas.
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